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		Your Personal Coach

Copyright 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004 by Kathleen Brehony. All Rights Reserved.
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	November 29, 2001

Make it 'both/and,' not 'either/or' - November 29, 2001 MSWord

Make it 'both/and,' not 'either/or' - November 29, 2001 Adobe Acrobat

December 6, 2001

Relationships need balance to flourish - December 6, 2001 MSWord

Relationships need balance to flourish - December 6, 2001 Adobe Acrobat


	December 13, 2001

Heal thyself by forgiving, moving beyond hurt -- December 13, 2001 MSWord

Heal thyself by forgiving, moving beyond hurt -- December 13, 2001 Adobe Acrobat

December 20, 2001

Crying...therapeutic or symptom of depression? -- December 20, 2001 MSWord

Crying...therapeutic or symptom of depression? -- December 20, 2001 Adobe Acrobat

January 3, 2002

Be cool, refuel, retool, then delegate -- January 3, 2002 MS Word

Be cool, refuel, retool, then delegate -- January 3, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

January 10, 2002

Losing job can evolve into start of something big -- January 10, 2002 MS Word

Losing job can evolve into start of something big -- January 10, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

January 17, 2002

Procrastination can be such a put-off -- January 17, 2002 MS Word

Procrastination can be such a put-off -- January 17, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

January 24, 2002

Be single-minded in dealing with two-faced colleague -- January 24, 2002 MS Word

Be single-minded in dealing with two-faced colleague -- January 24, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

January 31, 2002

Strive for satisfaction in excellence, don't extend reach to perfectionism --
January 31, 2002 MS Word

Strive for satisfaction in excellence, don't extend reach to perfectionism --
January 31, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

February 7, 2002

To overcome stress, live in the moment -- February 7, 2002 MSWord

To overcome stress, live in the moment -- February 7, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

February 14, 2002

Healing takes time, patience, strength -- February 14, 2002 MSWord

Healing takes time, patience, strength -- February 14, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

February 21, 2002

Patience, support will help family member overcome simmering anger -- February 21, 2002 MS Word

Patience, support will help family member overcome simmering anger -- February 21, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

February 28, 2002

Deeper questions of life provoking shallow comments from mate, friends -- February 28, 2002 MSWord

Deeper questions of life provoking shallow comments from mate, friends -- February 28, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

March 7, 2002

Don't let bad experience rob faith; learn caution -- March 7, 2002 MSWord

Don't let bad experience rob faith; learn caution -- March 7, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

March 14, 2002

Examine opportunities with new eyes -- and dash of whimsey -- March 14, 2002 MSWord

Examine opportunities with new eyes -- and dash of whimsey -- March 14, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

March 21, 2002

'Sorry 'bout that' can't be construed as sincere apology -- March 21, 2002 MSWord

'Sorry 'bout that' can't be construed as sincere apology -- March 21, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

March 28, 2002

If at first you don't succeed, you're in great company -- March 28, 2002 MSWord

If at first you don't succeed, you're in great company -- March 28, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

April 4, 2002

Dreams can be intimate pathway to understanding of inner self - April 4, 2002 MSWord

Dreams can be intimate pathway to understanding of inner self - April 4, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

April 11, 2002

Dad's attitude likely to poison water with daughter's fiancee -- April 11, 2002 MSWord

Dad's attitude likely to poison water with daughter's fiancee -- April 11, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

April 18, 2002

Don't try to fix it if it ain't broke -- April 18, 2002 MSWord

Don't try to fix it if it ain't broke -- April 18, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

April 25, 2002

Don't deny dying family member freedom to plan, discuss funeral -- April 25, 2002 MSWord

Don't deny dying family member freedom to plan, discuss funeral -- April 25, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

May 2, 2002

Laughter has psychological, physiological benefits -- May 2, 2002 MSWord

Laughter has psychological, physiological benefits -- May 2, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

May 9, 2002

Arranging family get-togethers worth effort -- May 9, 2002 MSWord

Arranging family get-togethers worth effort -- May 9, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

May 16, 2002

Those challenges that don't kill us make us stronger -- May 16, 2002 MSWord

Those challenges that don't kill us make us stronger -- May 16, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

May 23, 2002

Driver's impatience, rage causing wife to prefer taking the bus and an aspirin -- May 23, 2002 MSWord

Driver's impatience, rage causing wife to prefer taking the bus and an aspirin -- May 23, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

June 6, 2002

Cheating in school damaging girls' friendship -- June 6, 2002 MSWord

Cheating in school damaging girls' friendship -- June 6, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

June 13, 2002

Take a detour before Mom puts you on a guilt trip -- June 13, 2002 MSWord

Take a detour before Mom puts you on a guilt trip -- June 13, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

June 20, 2002

'Sofa days' important entry on calendar -- June 20, 2002 MSWord

'Sofa days' important entry on calendar -- June 20, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

June 27, 2002

Never ignore threats of suicide -- June 27, 2002 MSWord

Never ignore threats of suicide -- June 27, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

July 4, 2002

Dad needs to control spontaneity -- July 4, 2002 MSWord

Dad needs to control spontaneity -- July 4, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

July 11, 2002

One person - you -- can improve circumstances, redirect energies -- July 11, 2002 MS Word

One person - you -- can improve circumstances, redirect energies -- July 11, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

July 18, 2002

Sandwich Generation can leave mom physically, emotionally exhausted
-- July 18, 2002 MSWord

Sandwich Generation can leave mom physically, emotionally exhausted
-- July 18, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

July 25, 2002

When adult children move home, new boundaries must be drawn
-- July 25, 2002 MSWord

When adult children move home, new boundaries must be drawn
-- July 25, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

August 1, 2002

Grieve ending, but celebrate beginning -- August 1, 2002 MSWord

Grieve ending, but celebrate beginning -- August 1, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

August 8, 2002

Talk puberty early to kids -- August 8, 2002 MSWord

Talk puberty early to kids -- August 8, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

August 15, 2002

Will post 9/11 values endure? -- August 15, 2002 MSWord

Will post 9/11 values endure? -- August 15, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

August 22, 2002

Slob may have real disorder -- August 22, 2002 MSWord

Slob may have real disorder -- August 22, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

August 29, 2002

Blended families complicate modern wedding planning -- August 29, 2002 MSWord

Blended families complicate modern wedding planning -- August 29, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

September 5, 2002

Discuss parenting styles gently with siblings -- September 5, 2002 MSWord

Discuss parenting styles gently with siblings -- September 5, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

September 12, 2002

Daycare experience can unsettle family -- September 12, 2002 MSWord

Daycare experience can unsettle family -- September 12, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

September 19, 2002

Job and people skills needed -- September 19, 2002 MS Word

Job and people skills needed -- September 19, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

September 26, 2002

Wife needs time-out with football junkie -- September 26, 2002 MS Word

Wife needs time-out with football junkie -- September 26, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

October 3, 2002

Responsibility requires accountability -- October 3, 2002 MS Word

Responsibility requires accountability -- October 3, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

October 10, 2002

Protect yourself and help negative supervisor friend -- October 10, 2002 MS Word

Protect yourself and help negative supervisor friend -- October 10, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

October 17, 2002

You can't please anyone with a donkey on your back -- October 17, 2002 MSWord

You can't please anyone with a donkey on your back -- October 17, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

October 24, 2002

Courage will overcome our fear -- October 24, 2002 MSWord

Courage will overcome our fear -- October 24, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

October 31, 2002

Aid the grieving process -- October 31, 2002 MSWord

Aid the grieving process -- October 31, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

November 7, 2002

Get spouse in the loop on old flame -- November 7, 2002 MSWord

Get spouse in the loop on old flame -- November 7, 2002 MSWord

November 14, 2002

Selfishness issue may run deeper -- November 14, 2002 MSWord

Selfishness issue may run deeper -- November 14, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

November 21, 2002

Living your values takes some effort -- November 21, 2002 MsWord

Living your values takes some effort -- November 21, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

November 28, 2002

Some blessings may not be obvious -- November 28, 2002 MsWord

Some blessings may not be obvious -- November 28, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

December 5, 2002

Meeting management goals requires 'walking the talk' -- December 5, 2002 MSWord

Meeting management goals requires 'walking the talk' -- December 5, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

December 12, 2002

May the Force be with you... -- December 12, 2002 MS Word

May the Force be with you... -- December 12, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

December 19, 2002

Don't decorate your holidays with unneccesary stress -- December 19, 2002 MSWord

Don't decorate your holidays with unneccesary stress -- December 19, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

December 26, 2002

Drat those Babylonians who saddled us with resolutions -- December 26, 2002 MSWord

Drat those Babylonians who saddled us with resolutions -- December 26, 2002 Adobe Acrobat

January 2, 2003

Fear of losing control can lead to agoraphobia -- January 2, 2003 MS Word

Fear of losing control can lead to agoraphobia -- January 2, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

January 9, 2003

Transforming limited relationships into lifelong friendships -- January 9, 2003 MSWord

Transforming limited relationships into lifelong friendships -- January 9, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

January 16, 2003

Personal loss can spark grief, depression -- January 16, 2003 MSWord

Personal loss can spark grief, depression -- January 16, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

January 23, 2003

Some compensate for low self-esteem with arrogance -- January 23, 2003 MSWord

Some compensate for low self-esteem with arrogance -- January 23, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

January 30, 2003

Debating issues is an art; arguing without listening is not -- January 30, 2003 MSWord

Debating issues is an art; arguing without listening is not -- January 30, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

February 6, 2003

Taking responsibility for actions is a sign of leadership -- February 6, 2003 MSWord

Taking responsibility for actions is a sign of leadership -- February 6, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

February 13, 2003

Drawing the line and sticking to it could meet the test -- February 13, 2003 MSWord

Drawing the line and sticking to it could meet the test -- February 13, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

February 20, 2003

Insecurity leads to controlling behavior -- February 20, 2003 MSWord

Insecurity leads to controlling behavior -- February 20, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

February 27, 2003

Confidence takes courage, practice, patience and resilience
-- February 27, 2003 MSWord

Confidence takes courage, practice, patience and resilience
-- February 27, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

March 6, 2003

Rearing children brings rewards, headaches, disagreements -- March 6, 2003 MSWord

Rearing children brings rewards, headaches, disagreements -- March 6, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

March13, 2003

Caring for those with Alzheimer's Disease can be painful, challenging -- March 13, 2003 MSWord

Caring for those with Alzheimer's Disease can be painful, challenging -- March 13, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

March 20, 2003

Inter-faith marriages can survive with tolerance and respect -- March 20, 2003 MSWord

Inter-faith marriages can survive with tolerance and respect -- March 20, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

March 27, 2003

How to rebuff attention without hurting feelings -- March 27, 2003 MSWord

How to rebuff attention without hurting feelings -- March 27, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

April 3, 2003

It's never too late in life to grow, set and achieve goals -- April 3, 2003 MSWord

It's never too late in life to grow, set and achieve goals -- April 3, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

April 10, 2003

People often live up to and down to expectations of others -- April 10, 2003 MSWord

People often live up to and down to expectations of others -- April 10, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

April 17, 2003

Imagination can turn a trip into a romantic journey -- April 17, 2003 MSWord

Imagination can turn a trip into a romantic journey -- April 17, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

April 24, 2003

Gossip and rumormongering destructive to relationships -- April 24, 2003 MSWord

Gossip and rumormongering destructive to relationships -- April 24, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

May 1, 2003

'Baby talk' could be a sign of insecurity, lack of confidence -- May 1, 2003 MSWord

'Baby talk' could be a sign of insecurity, lack of confidence -- May 1, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

May 8, 2003

Expect grown children to be adults, not exhibit child-like dependency -- May 8, 2003 MSWord

Expect grown children to be adults, not exhibit child-like dependency -- May 8, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

May 14, 2003

Traditions and rituals sometimes have to change with conditions --
May 14, 2003 MSWord

Traditions and rituals sometimes have to change with conditions --
May 14, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

May 21, 2003

Suppressed anger eventually comes out one way or another -- May 21, 2003 MSWord

Suppressed anger eventually comes out one way or another -- May 21, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

May 28, 2003

History can trip up future -- May 28, 2003 MSWord

History can trip up future -- May 28, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

June 4, 2003

Life's a mess? -- June 4, 2003 MSWord

Life's a mess? -- June 4, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

June 11, 2003

Lack of trust sign of marital problems -- June 11, 2003 MSWord

Lack of trust sign of marital problems -- June 11, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

June 18, 2003

Retirement is a new beginning, not end -- June 18, 2003 MSWord

Retirement is a new beginning, not end -- June 18, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

June 25, 2003

Everyone needs a little recognition -- June 25, 2003 MSWord

Everyone needs a little recognition -- June 25, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

July 3, 2003

Match-making can burn the matchmaker -- July 2, 2003 MSWord

Match-making can burn the matchmaker -- July 2, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

July 9, 2003

Siblings need to share responsibility -- July 9, 2003 MSWord

Siblings need to share responsibility -- July 9, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

July 16, 2003

Hair pulling can be stopped -- July 16, 2003 MS Word

Hair pulling can be stopped -- July 16, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

July 23, 2003

Encourage cooperation rather than competition -- July 23, 2003 MS Word

Encourage cooperation rather than competition -- July 23, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

July 30, 2003

Somebody needs to have some sense talked to her -- July 30, 2003 MSWord

Somebody needs to have some sense talked to her -- July 30, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

August 6, 2003

Empty nest doesn't mean empty life -- August 6, 2003 MSWord

Empty nest doesn't mean empty life -- August 6, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

August 13, 2003

Don't be shy when it comes to suspected abuse -- August 13, 2003 MSWord

Don't be shy when it comes to suspected abuse -- August 13, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

August 20, 2003

Obese children face ridicule, other problems -- August 20, 2003 MSWord

Obese children face ridicule, other problems -- August 20, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

August 27, 2003

Fighting over the kitchen sink -- August 27, 2003 MSWord

Fighting over the kitchen sink -- August 27, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

September 3, 2003* appeared August 31, 2003

Shoes become show-stoppers -- September 3, 2003 MSWord

Shoes become show-stoppers -- September 3, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

September 10, 2003

Barking up the wrong tree -- September 10, 2003 MSWord

Barking up the wrong tree -- September 10, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

September 17, 2003

Dear Kathleen... -- September 17, 2003 MSWord

Dear Kathleen... -- September 17, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

September 24, 2003

Having sense of community -- September 24, 2003 MSWord

Having sense of community -- September 24, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

October 1, 2003

It's okay to cry -- October 1, 2003 MSWord

It's okay to cry -- October 1, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

October 8, 2003

Heal us -- October 8, 2003 MSWord

Heal us -- October 8, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

October 22, 2003

Put your best foot forward -- October 22, 2003 MSWord

Put your best foot forward -- October 22, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

October 29, 2003

Girls need sports, too -- October 29, 2003 MSWord

Girls need sports, too -- October 29, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

November 6, 2003

Bullying can cause lifelong damage -- November 6, 2003 MSWord

Bullying can cause lifelong damage -- November 6, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

November 12, 2003

Speak up, speak out -- November 12, 2003 MSWord

Speak up, speak out -- November 12, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

November 19, 2003

Giving thanks for less - November 19, 2003 MSWord

Giving thanks for less - November 19, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

November 26, 2003

May your stuffing be tasty -- November 26, 2003 MSWord

May your stuffing be tasty -- November 26, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

December 3, 2003

It's only love -- December 3, 2003 MSWord

It's only love -- December 3, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

December 10, 2003

Do what you will -- December 10, 2003 MSWord

Do what you will -- December 10, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

December 17, 2003

Here's to the Wright Brothers! -- December 17, 2003 MSWord

Here's to the Wright Brothers! -- December 17, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

December 24, 2003

A day of peace -- December 24, 2003 MSWord

A day of peace -- December 24, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

December 31, 2003

New Year's superstitions -- December 31, 2003 MSWord

New Year's superstitions -- December 31, 2003 Adobe Acrobat

January 7, 2004

Cell phone mania -- January 7, 2004 MSWord

Cell phone mania -- January 7, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

January 14, 2004

Take the bossing out of relationship -- January 14, 2004 MSWord

Take the bossing out of relationship -- January 14, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

January 21, 2004

Something in the way he smiles -- January 21, 2004 MSWord

Something in the way he smiles -- January 21, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

January 28, 2004

Forget 'Dear John' -- January 28, 2004 MS Word

Forget 'Dear John' -- January 28, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

February 4, 2004

Gaining wisdom through loss -- February 4, 2004 MSWord

Gaining wisdom through loss -- February 4, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

February 11, 2004

How's business? Don't ask -- February 11, 2004 MSWord

How's business? Don't ask -- February 11, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

February 18, 2004

Pornography expensive, addictive and negative -- February 18, 2004 MSWord

Pornography expensive, addictive and negative -- February 18, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

February 25, 2004

Shopaholic hangovers -- credit card debt -- February 25, 2004 MSWord

Shopaholic hangovers -- credit card debt -- February 25, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

March 3, 2004

Small-Biz Blues -- March 3, 2004 MSWord

Small-Biz Blues -- March 3, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

March 10, 2004

Doggone! -- March 10, 2004 MSWord

Doggone! -- March 10, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

March 17, 2004

What St. Patrick's Day is really about -- March 17, 2004 MSWord

What St. Patrick's Day is really about -- March 17, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

March 24, 2004

Don't give up! -- March 24, 2004 MSWord

Don't give up! -- March 24, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

March 31, 2004

Long-distance discord -- March 31, 2004 MSWord

Long-distance discord -- March 31, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

April 7, 2004

Teasing can leave lasting scars -- April 7, 2004 MSWord

Teasing can leave lasting scars -- April 7, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

April 14, 2004

When perfection is not an option -- April 14, 2004 MSWord

When perfection is not an option -- April 14, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

April 21, 2004

Writer's Block -- April 21, 2004 MSWord

Writer's Block -- April 21, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

April 28, 2004

Can the twain meet? -- April 28, 2004 MSWord

Can the twain meet? -- April 28, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

May 5, 2004

They don't make us like they used to... -- May 5, 2004 MSWord

They don't make us like they used to... -- May 5, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

May 12, 2004

Time marches on -- May 12, 2004 MSWord

Time marches on -- May 12, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

May 19, 2004

Living in the material world -- May 19, 2004 MSWord

Living in the material world -- May 19, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

May 26, 2004

Abuse is abuse -- May 26, 2004 MSWord

Abuse is abuse -- May 26, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

June 2, 2004

It's a family, after all -- June 2, 2004 MSWord

It's a family, after all -- June 2, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

June 9, 2004

Peer-pressure perils -- June 9, 2004 MSWord

Peer-pressure perils -- June 9, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

June 16, 2004

Repaying love -- June 16, 2004 MSWord

Repaying love -- June 16, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

June 23, 2004

Friend in need -- June 23, 2004 MSWord

Friend in need -- June 23, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

June 30, 2004

My life -- June 30, 2004 MSWord

My life -- June 30, 2004 Adobe Acrobat

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